Ryan Reynolds has recently shared a piece of invaluable parenting advice he received from Shawn Levy, the director of his upcoming film Deadpool & Wolverine. This advice has profoundly influenced how Reynolds raises his four children, emphasizing the importance of embracing both wins and losses in life.

Ryan Reynolds wants his four kids to see his wins and his losses as he opened up about his parenting style; pictured in LA in 2016 with wife Blake Lively, 36, and daughters James (L) and Inez (R)Ryan Reynolds, 47, and Shawn Levy have developed a strong bond through their work on various film projects. During a conversation with Hugh Jackman, Reynolds revealed a key piece of advice from Levy that has stuck with him forever: “People tend to only talk about their wins, but it’s really important for your kids to know that you lose and you don’t get what you want all the time.”

This perspective resonated deeply with Reynolds, who wants his children—James, nine; Inez, seven; Betty, four; and a fourth child whose name and sex have not been announced—to understand that life is full of both successes and failures. Reynolds believes it’s crucial for his kids to see that even he, a successful actor, faces setbacks and disappointments.

Reynolds credited director Shawn Levy for inspiring him. 'Shawn Levy actually told me... that people tend to only talk about their wins, but I think it's really important for your kids in particular to know that you lose, you don't get what you want all the time'

Reynolds elaborated on why this advice is so meaningful to him. He explained that sharing his failures and struggles with his children helps them realize that everyone has bad days and that hard work doesn’t always lead to success. This transparency fosters resilience and a realistic outlook on life.

“It’s just so important that [your kids] see that and they don’t just hear, ‘Oh, Dad nailed it.’ Because you lose so much more than you win,” Reynolds explained. This approach ensures that his children understand the value of perseverance and the inevitability of occasional failures.

Reynolds revealed his experience with anxiety has helped him help his children. 'I see my kids experiencing some of that... I know how to address it in a way that is compassionate, that actually allows them to feel seen,' he said (Pictured in Santa Monica in December 2022)

Reynolds, who shares his children with his wife Blake Lively, 36, also opened up about how being a father has changed his perspective on his own struggles with anxiety. Speaking to Hugh Jackman, Reynolds acknowledged that fatherhood has shifted his focus away from himself and onto his kids.

“I think it makes it better because your focus is less on yourself and more on your kids,” Reynolds said. This shift has allowed him to address his children’s anxieties with compassion and understanding, drawing from his own experiences.

Reynolds admitted that having anxiety himself has equipped him to better support his children when they experience similar feelings. “When I see my kids experiencing some of that, which is probably genetic, I know how to address it in a way that is compassionate, that actually allows them to feel seen,” he explained.

He stressed the importance of communication, acknowledging that he cannot simply fix his children’s anxieties but can offer them understanding and empathy. “I’m always grateful for it,” Reynolds said, highlighting the positive aspects of his own struggles with anxiety.

Jackman said he had learned to tell his kids how he's feeling.  actually just said to my son, "I¿ve got to make this uncomfortable phone call. I¿m a bit nervous about it. If I seem a bit off, that¿s why"'   (Pictured in London in December 2023)

Hugh Jackman, who shares two children, Oscar, 24, and Ava, 19, with his estranged wife Deborra-Lee Furness, also shared his experiences with parenting and anxiety. Jackman admitted that when his children were younger, he was more reserved about his own anxieties, believing it was best not to burden them.

However, Jackman later realized that his children might misinterpret his anxiety as anger towards them. This revelation prompted him to change his approach, becoming more open about his feelings and struggles. He shared an example of making an uncomfortable phone call and explaining his nervousness to his son. This transparency helped his son feel included and understand that his father’s mood was unrelated to him.

Blake Lively and Blake lively

Reynolds and Jackman’s stories highlight the importance of openness and honesty in parenting. By sharing their struggles and anxieties with their children, they create a more supportive and understanding family environment. This approach not only helps their children feel seen and valued but also teaches them important life lessons about resilience and empathy.

In summary, Ryan Reynolds’ revelation about Shawn Levy’s parenting advice underscores the significance of showing children that life includes both successes and failures. By embracing this philosophy, Reynolds aims to raise resilient, empathetic children who understand the value of perseverance and the reality of setbacks. This candid approach to parenting, shared by both Reynolds and Jackman, offers valuable insights for parents striving to foster strong, compassionate relationships with their children.